March 2025 – Advice by Alicia

Ever find a 5 leaf clover? (Real or metaphorical?)

🍀 I’m really good at finding 4 leaf clovers. I don’t even pick them anymore; I just leave them there for other people to discover. But the 5’s? Those are special. I love finding those. Who wouldn’t?

Why am I telling you this? Because you’re wasting your time on 3 leafers.

YOU are a FIVE leaf clover. Yes, I said FIVE.

🚫☘️🚫How can you spot a 3 leafer? Easy.

They’re the ones that:

Call you at the last minute to “hang out” and doesn’t take you on real, planned dates
Text you at midnight… ehm…
Skip your birthday and act like holidays don’t exist
Invalidate, minimize, and/or belittle your feelings
Ignore you for their phone or friends
Are critical of you
Cancel on you
Expect a medal for doing the bare minimum
Tell you that nobody will love you like he does

You know what I’m talking about- and it’s time to ditch them..

You are a m0therf^cking FIVE leaf Clover Goddess. A Creature Unlike Any Other!!🦄

And you can’t fix him. You can’t make him be better to you. You can’t add leaves. There’s not enough superglue in the world.

So ditch the weed. Because you CAN find a guy that’s a 5-er. They’re out there. You just need to learn to spot them sooner.

Also, you’re worth it. If you don’t believe it yet, I’ll believe it for you for now, until we get you there 🫶🏻

I’m coming to you from the future on this one… You’re gonna be SO pissed you spent so much time on those weeds when you’re discovered by your own FIVE leafer.

Dating apps are all different but many of them ask questions as part of the sign-up process.

Whether it’s because they are trying to use the questions to match you with appropriate dates, trying to bulk up your profile, or just trying to help break the ice, the questions can get QUITE personal and heavy.

Less is more on dating apps! (And the first few dates.)

Keep it light, but interesting. Honest, but mysterious.

How? So glad you asked!

Some apps require you to answer questions in order to join. If you have to meet a minimum, only answer the most tame, surface questions.

Answer questions like:

Are you a summer person or a winter person?
Do you like scary movies?
Would you date a smoker?
Is pizza on your top 5 favorite food list?

Skip questions about:

Marriage
Having children in the future
Past relationships
Your flaws/weaknesses
Income/money
Which safety precautions you take
Intimacy/sexual experiences/fetishes

If you cannot avoid answering these types of questions (some apps require a minimum of 15. I’m looking at you, OKC…) answer them, but then go into the settings and make them all private. Or replace them with more mundane questions and delete the personal ones.

If you HAVE to answer, try to be vague (choose: other) or noncommittal (choose: maybe/undecided).

✨If all this sounds great but you’d like a little help navigating this topic, and dating in general, I’d like to invite you to my own little corner of the internet. I’m starting a small Dating Advice Support Group that will Zoom weekly to chat about The Rules, vent, support each other, and solve your specific dating woes. It’s small right now, as all new groups are- but that gets you in early at a Founder’s rate that will never go up- for however long you’re a member. I’ve also included a couple other Founder’s perks 👇🏻 I’ll see you in there?

Check out the Founder’s Perks

Let me know what you think! And if you have questions, I’m only a DM @advice.by.alicia (on Insta or TikTok) or email away therulesroom@advicebyalicia.com 🤗

See you there?

Ok so have fun and be safe out there! Love- and luck!

I also keep some helpful resources for you here

Advice by Alicia

Certified Rules (TM) Dating and Relationship Coach

Month: March 2025

Five Leaf Clover

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