Hellooooooo!

I have been hard at work creating something TEN years in the making. Ok, it hasn’t taken me 10 years to create it, but it’s taken me this long to have the time to do so…. Over the 10 years that I’ve been a Rules Certified Dating Coach, I have been asked repeatedly to begin a group so fellow Rules Girls (women) can come together to chat and support each other through the weeds of dating- and now I finally have the time to do it! I know all too well how difficult it is to do The Rules on your own, decipher texts from men, and come up with the right dialogue to maintain that Rules-y “honest but mysterious” vibe. Sooo…

I will be opening the “doors” VERY soon. It will be small at first, as all new communities are, but I anticipate that we will grow as more women join the group. Within the group, we will meet twice weekly via Zoom on Mondays and Wednesdays (different times to accommodate for time zones and schedules) to check-in about the past weekend, chat about The Rules, and ask YOUR specific “what if” and “what about” questions. I am also open to meeting briefly on Fridays to send you off to the weekend with The Rules in mind.

So I hope you will join me. It’s so much easier to do The Rules with others cheering you on! (If you’d like to join and be a wallflower, that’s welcome too. I’m an introvert as well, and I know sometimes I just want to observe and not be singled out. You do you, Boo!)

What are The Rules?

The Rules are a tried-and-true dating method passed down from generations. It’s a framework we use for dating that allows us to quickly see through the BS and weed out the guys that are going to waste our time or treat us poorly.

Why do The Rules?

So many of my clients over the years have always been SO nice, kind, considerate, forgiving, and let’s be honest, a lot of us were somehow taught we need to be people-pleasers, bending over backwards for others, excusing behaviors, and accepting the bare minimum (sometimes, even less) in relationships. Or maybe you were taught to lay all of your cards on the table and be very forward about who you are and what you want. In those and many other cases, men have walked all over us, kept us guessing and blaming ourselves, wasted our time, spent our money, taken all we could give- and then ghosted or moved on because they “needed space” or are “afraid of commitment.” One scroll through Threads will show you that SO many women are in the same boat. Well, I have great news- and more great news. The great news is: You’re already a WONDERFUL wife, you just need to learn how to 1.) spot a nice guy who deserves you and 2.) date and be a girlfriend first. The other great news is: The Rules help you do just that! We can stop those cycles of over-giving or over-sharing in their tracks. The Rules are a set of boundaries. We learn them. We stick to them. And they help us see through men’s bad behavior AND help us spot the good men too. (The actual good ones- not the ones that run around hatefully telling women how we don’t actually want a nice guy. Cue the Liz Lemon eye roll)

The thing about The Rules is that they’re easy- but they can be hard to do, especially when you like him. They involve making new habits and standing firm in your newfound healthy boundaries: not leading the conversation, not reaching out first, not making excuses for him, not (forgive me) being a doormat. And it can be hard to do it alone. I didn’t have a group of women to lean on when I was dating and doing The Rules so I know how hard it is- luckily I eventually met and recruited one of my besties and we went about it that way, holding hands as we held our boundaries, practicing answers for when he asks tricky personal questions, fixing our mistakes when we accidentally- or purposefully- broke a rule, sending each other screenshots of texts asking “what am I supposed to say to this?!” and on and on. That’s what this group is for.

This Community is for women who are:

• Rules-y or Rules-curious
• Confused and/or exhausted by men
• Tired of being used and ghosted
• Tired of hearing crummy advice about catering to lazy men
• Sick of wasting their time on the wrong men
• Not interested in dating or marrying a man-child
• Not into situationships
• Already knowledgeable in The Rules but don’t have single, like-minded friends for support
• Looking for a man that will make a good husband (and possibly father to her children)
• Want a group of like-minded women cheering them on
• Interested in learning a new (to you), empowering way to date

I am opening the space very soon. As part of the 🎉Grand Opening 🎉 if you will, I want to spoil the community Founders. In addition to a low rate that will be locked-in for as long as you are a member, I am also including a free 30-minute 1:1 consult per month for you to use as you like. I will need to cap the number of Founders to 20 as I only have so much time in each month to do 1:1 consults, so I hope you’ll get in early! The price will go up and the 1:1 consults will be gone once we reach 20.

So watch this space, because I will be launching within the next few days!