Category: Married

Helpful Tools

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I made you some really helpful resources because (maybe it’s cheesy, but…) I care.
1.) Personally I’m a sucker for a quiz. This one tells you your dating style and gives you some pointers in your results. Dating Style Quiz. It’ll take you about 10 minutes.

2.) I also made “Take the Guesswork out of Dating” for you. It’ll guide you through what to do before, during, and after a date to avoid common (catastrophic) mistakes. Because you deserve way more than those jokers that are going to waste your precious time. Inside you’ll find:

  • How to craft your pre-date mindset
  • What TO talk about. What NOT to talk about
  • How to spot the guys that will waste your time
  • The recipe for increased confidence and decreased confusion

Pro tip: Print it and post it wherever you get ready for dates so it’s fresh in your head when you head out.

3.) The third treat I created for you is a guide called Learning to Pace a Relationship. It could be the difference between getting ghosted and getting married. Inside there’s answers to:

  • What is an appropriate first date location?
  • If we’ve been dating for 2 months, how many times per week can I see him?
  • Should I go to his place yet?
  • When can I spend a week away with him?

And SO MUCH MORE. Pacing is an important part of dating- especially in the beginning. It prevents him from getting too much from you too soon and fizzling out or ghosting AND gives him enough time to develop real feelings. This chart is chef’s kiss if I do say so myself.

Here’s my QR Code. It’ll take you to everything (My LinkTree).

✨Alsoooooo… You are also cordially invited to join me in a little corner of the internet I built for us. I’m starting a Dating Advice Support Group that will meet weekly to chat about The Rules, vent, support each other, and solve your specific dating woes. It’s small right now, as all new groups are- but that gets you in early at a Founder’s rate that will never go up- for however long you’re a member. I’ve also included a couple other Founder’s perks👇🏻

Check out the Founder’s Perks

Let me know what you think! And if you have questions, I’m only a DM @advice.by.alicia (on Insta or TikTok) or email away therulesroom@advicebyalicia.com 🤗

See you there?

Cheers!

Alicia

Short but Sweet: A dating profile

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The dating apps are getting a LOT of hate. And I get it.
But they get sooo much easier to navigate if you learn some tips.
✨Here’s a helpful hack✨
Keep your profile short and sweet, but with some personality. Keep it light and positive but add some specifics.

Here’s a template:

Hi! I’m__name__. I’m a ___career title___. OR I work in ___field___.
I’m into _ add about 6 things here. Add a couple that are hobbies, a couple that are good low-key date ideas (without saying it), and a couple that are things you love or want to try.__ Optional: A sentence about what you’re looking for in someone.

For example:

Hi! I’m Alicia. I’m a pediatric Speech Pathologist.
In my free time I like roller skating, skiing, and reading. I’m into science lectures, movies, and I’m always up for traveling and trying new foods.
I’m looking for someone easy-going who will try my latest kitchen creations.

OR

Hello! I’m Guinevere, but I go by Beck. I’m a grad student, studying writing- specifically poetry. When I’m not writing, you can find me teaching yoga, out with my friends, or checking out open mic nights. I’m always up for trying a fun food truck or new craft beers.
I’m a sucker for an old book store.

OR

Hey there, I’m Emily. I’m new to Paris, originally from Chicago.
I’m a marketing executive and have been having a blast learning about French culture and cuisine. I’m into art, photography, and fashion. I like to stay fit by running.

Why do it this way? Because we want men to start a real conversation with us. “Hi beautiful” and “wyd” isn’t worth our time. But if we want them to say something meaningful, we have to give them something to use to be able to start a conversation with us. I know. Many of them just swipe based on looks, it’s true. Men are visual. But a man that’s truly interested in you will want to start off right.
Bonus: if they’re smart, they can get some date ideas out of your profile.

What about pictures you ask? Post 1 of your smiling face closer up, and maybe 2 body shots so they can see your figure. You don’t need 17 action shots, every hobby you love depicted, pets, family, kids, etc. Make sure your pictures are clear, flattering, accurate, and recent.

What are the don’ts? DON’T:

  • List all of your dealbreakers. You can have them; just keep them to yourself.
  • Write a novel
  • Tell them your full name or where you live, work, go to the gym, etc. SAFETY FIRST!
  • Air out any dirty laundry or things that are unflattering
  • Spell out your wish list
  • Get gooey and romantic
  • Be bitter or demanding
  • Discuss past relationships, traumas, or baggage

There is plenty of time for him to get to know you and learn about your dark sides and your quirks. Right now, just keep it light and positive. He’s a *stranger* and you don’t owe strangers every little detail.

✨If all this sounds great but you’d like a little help navigating this topic, and dating in general, I’d like to invite you to my own little corner of the internet. I’m starting a small Dating Advice Support Group that will Zoom weekly to chat about The Rules, vent, support each other, and solve your specific dating woes. It’s small right now, as all new groups are- but that gets you in early at a Founder’s rate that will never go up- for however long you’re a member. I’ve also included a couple other Founder’s perks 👇🏻

Check out the Founder’s Perks

Let me know what you think! And if you have questions, I’m only an email away therulesroom@advicebyalicia.com 🤗

See you there?

Ok so have fun and be safe out there! Love- and luck!

I also keep my helpful resources for you here

Dating is Hard

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The good news? I got you, Boo. Married? I got you too.

First things first: where’ve I been? I’m still here. I’m still coaching clients. I’m just not blogging much, not posting much on socials -though, I am on Instagram, TikTok (for however long that lasts), and YouTube (there’s nothing on YT yet). Most of my clients have been finding me via the official Rules website, as I am listed as one of their certified coaches. Others have been clients/previous clients referring their friends (I am very honored, and SO delighted you’ve been happy with my advice-enough so to trust me with your friends! 🫶🏻). I haven’t been posting much because I’ve been pretty busy with a couple of businesses and life in general, particularly being a wife and mothering a toddler. But since my little one has started preschool (😳🥺😭), I find myself with some time. The stars have begun to align in my life to allow me to go back to devoting much more time to helping folks discover and practice ✨The Rules✨.

Sooooo, more posts, more blogs, maybe a podcast(?) to come! I’ve also been thinking I will start some weekly group chats so fellow CUAOs can get together, have questions answered, and support each other. I know firsthand how much better it is to have someone to turn to on a regular basis when you’re navigating the dating world, sometimes being the only one you know who’s doing The Rules. Over the years, I’ve had a lot of clients ask if we could make a group, and I just never had the time to host one. In fact, I am thinking of hosting two weekly group chats: one for the dating folks and one for the married folks. I think I may call them “Hard to Get” and “Easy to be With.”

More info to come in the coming weeks. I am bursting at the seams to share more with you! If you need anything in the meantime, head over to my Consultations page and we can chat. Also, PLEASE feel free to reach out and let me know if you have any particular topics you’d like me to focus on in my upcoming posts/videos/etc.

Cheers!