Today’s Tip- Do You

How’s that self-esteem of yours? Is there something small you can do to help yourself be happier? Or become more comfortable in your own skin?

It’s the beginning of a fresh, new week! For some, the beginning of a new school year. It’s the perfect time to put something new into your routine. Many art and music classes rotate with the school year calendar. Is there something you’d like to learn? Violin, pottery, a new language, how to refinish that end table, photography, wine pairing principles, how to get your dog to stop barking at the mailman? Is there a yoga or ballroom dance class you’ve been meaning to try (or return to)? Maybe you want to join a Meetup in your area? Not only will you open yourself up to meeting new people (maybe Mr. Right?), you’ll have more conversation topics to draw from in social situations.

Maybe something else would do the trick:

How about adding a few new items to your wardrobe to pep it up a bit?

Or a little tooth whitening might brighten your smile? A spray-tan? New fragrance?

A night in front of Netflix or HGTV donning an exfoliating mask, giving yourself a pedicure?

Taking some time to breathe deeply and meditate?

Perhaps a little getaway for the long Labor Day weekend?

Feast your eyes on some paintings at the MET?

A night out with the girls?

What do you like to do? What would boost your mind, body, and/or spirit and help you become the BEST version of yourself? “Doing you” is the first step in any relationship. The happier you are, the more confidence you exude, the more attractive you are to others. It’s the dawning of a new week; give it a go! What sounds good to you? Share your ideas below!

Today’s Tip- Safety First

Have a date with someone new? Going out for a nighttime jog? Live alone?

Has everyone heard of Kitestring? It’s a fantastic FREE service my bestie and I use when we go out at night or with a new man we met online (well, not her, she’s engaged now!). The website has step-by-step instructions, but in a nutshell, “Kitestring checks up on you when you’re out and alerts your friends if you don’t respond.” You set it up ahead of time with your name, phone number, 2 passwords, and your emergency contacts’ phone numbers. When you go out, you can text Kitestring on your assigned text line, or login to your computer to tell Kitestring how long you will be out. When you get back home, (login or) text your regular password to Kitestring and it will end your trip. If you do not check in, Kitestring will check in with you. If you do not respond, it sends your emergency contacts your personalized alert message. (Tip: Delete your password from your text history every time you use it so it’s not stored on your phone and nobody can check-in as you!)

It also has an added feature that if you are actually under duress, you can use your duress password and it will immediately alert your friends. (Horrible reality: I would make this password very clever. If you were actually in trouble, you wouldn’t want someone to see you typing “kidnapped” or “help” over your shoulder!)

Since we are on the topic, here are some best practice ideas to use when you are meeting a new man:

1.) WHO- Forward his name, phone number, and profile picture to your emergency contact(s) to have on file.

2.) WHEN- Text/call your emergency contact(s) to let them know you have a date and how long your expect to be. Text Kitestring when you head out.

3.) WHERE- ALWAYS meet in a safe, well-lit public place. Tell someone where you will be meeting him, and do not change locations once you get there. (Only change locations if you MUST and send a text to update your contact. And take your own car.)

4.) Do not get into his car or take a quick spin on his motorcycle. You’re smarter than that. You know WHY.

It’s a crazy world out there. If you have additional tips, please feel free to share them below. Stay safe, my loves!

Today’s Tip- Do What You Love

Take yourself on little dates to do things you love when you don’t have someone to go with you. I LOVE to pick my own produce, and peaches are in season at the moment so I made a solo trip to a local farm to pick some peaches straight from the trees. They. Are. Delicious! What do you love to do? Don’t be afraid to go alone. Who knows? You could always meet a cute farmer or a guy that shares your interest!

Hello!

Welcome to Advice by Alicia! I am thrilled to be here to answer your dating scene questions and spread this wealth of knowledge known as The Rules (TM).

Having been a Rules Girl, or CUAO (Creature Unlike Any Other), for sometime, I decided I should make it official and become a Certified Rules Dating Coach. Many of my friends and I live and breathe The Rules(TM). We practice dialogue with each other, take turns being strong and steadfast in The Rules when the other is weak, and share in our Rules successes!

When I started this blog a few years ago, my bestie was engaged and planning her wedding to a wonderful man thanks to The Rules! They had a beautiful, intimate beach ceremony and have been happily married for years!

I met my Mr. Right just a few months after becoming officially Rules certified, got engaged, married in the sweetest intimate ceremony, and had a champagne brunch reception! Beautiful and perfect. …and now… we just had a baby!

I cannot wait to help you find your path to being as happily married as I am. There’s nothing like it. Plenty of people are married; but not everyone is so lucky to have found The Rules.

What are The Rules? Visit my About the Rules page to find out more!